I’m Shirley Ellereus Ndaba I’ve been living in the inner city of Joburg for years and as I grow up I see how men react towards women, the city is crowded and you interact with strange men, some of these men are foreign men.
As a young woman I come across challenges that many women choose to be silent about or if they do try to voice their personal lives out they are unheard. I’m a woman and as a woman I have rights as a human being.
I feel that men see women as sex toys; I feel disrespected when I see that they don’t respect us women regardless of how respectfully dressed you are all they see is a sex freak.
It saddens me how men choose to speak to women and demand respect from you as a woman, it is known that as a person you that you have to earn respect not demand!!!!!!!
I feel that men see women as sex toys, they don’t choose the correct words to use when speaking to a woman, also the way they touch you inappropriately, they try to approach you just like they do to every woman that pass by, as a woman with self disciplined I choose to ignore them, just to avoid noise but as I do that they swear and say disrespectful words.
As a result I try by all means to dress respectfully and appropriately like covering my body as woman, basically I don’t wear skirts or show my cleavage, I do wear long tops or shirts and if I do I wear leggings all the time.
Even though I do that to protect myself from the negative speeches that I might get from these men or to try solve the problem by wearing appropriately, it makes no same difference because they always have something negative to say that will make feel worthless as a woman.
I understand that some women are the reason why these men see all women as the same thing, that’s because some women’s actions in the inner city are unbearable. There are many things that women can do with their lives than just selling their bodies, that’s the reason why men in the inner city don’t respect, women.