Tuesday, 22 March 2011

Hate crime

I have noticed that men mostly are the ones causing the violence  towards homosexual women, for pasts few weeks i wrote a blog about men not stating that its not all men that disrespect women, i have friends that are men, my families are packed with men, my brothers my cousins, my uncles, my nephews and saving the best of the best for last MY FATHER
Did i really have to forget that  all these people know how to treat women like angels, i think its the background that they grow up from and it is also how they taught at home. i apologize to the men out that know how to handle women in a respected manner.

 I just wish that there could be justice  for us homosexuals it is not a nice things to live in fear of hate crime and keep wondering if you'll one day be the victim of hate crime as a homosexual. I'm a feminine lesbian and proud i just what to be excepted that way i am and not be treated.

Tuesday, 8 March 2011

man hater

I’m Shirley Ellereus Ndaba I’ve been living in the inner city of Joburg for years and as I grow up I see how men react towards women, the city is crowded and you interact with strange men, some of these men are foreign men.

As a young woman I come across challenges that many women choose to be silent about or if they do try to voice their personal lives out they are unheard. I’m a woman and as a woman I have rights as a human being.

I feel that men see women as sex toys; I feel disrespected when I see that they don’t respect us women regardless of how respectfully dressed you are all they see is a sex freak.

It saddens me how men choose to speak to women and demand respect from you as a woman, it is known that as a person you that you have to earn respect not demand!!!!!!!

I feel that men see women as sex toys, they don’t choose the correct words to use when speaking to a woman, also the way they touch you inappropriately, they try to approach you just like they do to every woman that pass by, as a woman with self disciplined I choose to ignore them, just to avoid noise but as I do that they swear and say disrespectful words.

As a result I try by all means to dress respectfully and appropriately like covering my body as woman, basically I don’t wear skirts or show my cleavage, I do wear long tops or shirts and if I do I wear leggings all the time.

Even though I do that to protect myself from the negative speeches that I might get from these men or to try solve the problem by wearing appropriately, it makes no same difference because they always have something negative to say that will make feel worthless as a woman.

I understand that some women are the reason why these men see all women as the same thing, that’s because some women’s actions in the inner city are unbearable. There are many things that women can do with their lives than just selling their bodies, that’s the reason why men in the inner city don’t respect, women.

my is Shirlz

my name is Shirley and my story focuses on the inner city life of jozi, whereby i express how the life is in terms of invoving both male and female and how life is and how the life turns to be so worthless for a woman in the city.

It saddens me how men choose to speak to women and demand respect from you as a woman, it is known that as a person you that you have to earn respect not demand!!!!!!!